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Nov. 15th, 2018 03:51 pmso i guess this is the tradeoff and i hear it goes forever:
that being out is situational and kind of is always maybe gonna be a Thing, and the being seen/not being seen might just not be comfortable either way. and i wasn’t thinking about this before, even three years ago, but i def felt lots of things and insecurity in a different way.
it’s also just different going from a workplace where people’s sexualities weren’t really assumed (or more that the assumption was that it could be anything until noted) to a place that has a ton of queer people(women) but there’s like a List and people seem to know who’s on it or not and i don’t seem to be able to really get on it. like this is the second work party where a newer (more visibly gay) person is like okay who else is queer and people literally are going through the staff and i’m fakecasually raising my hand and it’s very “(AND PEGGY)” of it all.
that being out is situational and kind of is always maybe gonna be a Thing, and the being seen/not being seen might just not be comfortable either way. and i wasn’t thinking about this before, even three years ago, but i def felt lots of things and insecurity in a different way.
it’s also just different going from a workplace where people’s sexualities weren’t really assumed (or more that the assumption was that it could be anything until noted) to a place that has a ton of queer people(women) but there’s like a List and people seem to know who’s on it or not and i don’t seem to be able to really get on it. like this is the second work party where a newer (more visibly gay) person is like okay who else is queer and people literally are going through the staff and i’m fakecasually raising my hand and it’s very “(AND PEGGY)” of it all.
